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To the Hagars of The World

My heart has this aching pain for those on the fringes!

The left-out
The forgotten
The left behind
The unpopular ones
The mis-fits
The misunderstood

The ones who feel like outcasts.

Take comfort & consider today my friends…God is the God who SEES You! El Roi’ is His name. He sees your pain, your brokenness, your loneliness. He sees and He can heal the pain. He can repair the broken pieces of your heart. He can give you the friends you need. He can make you the friend someone else needs. He also desires to be your closest friend. He is the one who promises to…”never leave you or forsake you”

He desires to lavish His holy love on you! His love is extravagant! You are loved! You are wanted! You are His!

Guess what else? Yes!, He loves you but, He also likes you!

Your quirky personality.
Your uniqueness.
Your awkwardness.
All of you! He likes you!

While others may leave you out, or when you feel over-looked, unnoticed, forgotten or invisible…

Your heavenly Father sees you!

He includes you!
He notices you!
He remembers you!
He sees you!

His arms are open wide & he has invited you into a magnificent relationship through His One & Only Begotten Son Jesus Christ.

You are valuable to the King of the world!

You are not alone.

You are important!

In the Shadow of the Almighty,

Renee

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You Are Important to God

My heart has this aching pain for those on the fringes!

The left-out
The forgotten
The left behind
The unpopular ones
The mis-fits
The misunderstood

The ones who feel like outcasts.

Take comfort & consider today my friends…God is the God who SEES You! El Roi’ is His name. He sees your pain, your brokenness, your loneliness. He sees and He can heal the pain. He can repair the broken pieces of your heart. He can give you the friends you need. He can make you the friend someone else needs. He also desires to be your closest friend. He is the one who promises to…”never leave you or forsake you”

He desires to lavish His holy love on you! His love is extravagant! You are loved! You are wanted! You are His!

Guess what else? Yes!, He loves you but, He also likes you!

Your quirky personality.
Your uniqueness.
Your awkwardness.
All of you! He likes you!

While others may leave you out, or when you feel over-looked, unnoticed, forgotten or invisible…

Your heavenly Father sees you!

He includes you!
He notices you!
He remembers you!
He sees you!

His arms are open wide & he has invited you into a magnificent relationship through His One & Only Begotten Son Jesus Christ.

You are valuable to the King of the world!

You are not alone.

You are important to God!

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In The Shadow of Protection

One of the shadows I lived in as a child and one that attached itself to me and hovered over me well into my adult years; is what I have dubbed,”the shadow of rejection.”   I don’t recall from my childhood sitting around obsessing over the fact that I had no real Daddy.   I was a kid for pete’s sake! I was doing what kids do, playing with friends, going to school living life.

I was just doing it without anyone to call Daddy.

So, I don’t remember thinking as a child, “my daddy abandoned me” or “I was rejected by my daddy”.  In fact,  I didn’t understand until many years later how living in the shadow of rejection had affected every area my life.  How this shadow followed me into each and every relationship.   Overtime, I began to get it!

Growing up,  I began to understand that the Father who should have loved, protected and provided for me instead rejected & neglected me.  He made a conscious choice not to be involved in my life!  I mean, it wasn’t like he had no choice in the matter. He still had breath in his lungs.  He didn’t die.  He wasn’t hindered by poor health or by circumstances that made the choice for him.  He simply chose not to be my Daddy.  He chose not to be part of my life.  He and my grand parents chose to pretend that I didn’t exist.  I was a mistake, one I suppose they all wanted to forget about!

Growing up in the shadow of rejection can have lasting effects on a  girl’s heart.  Little did I know then that my earthly father’s choice to reject me was actually a protection that my heavenly father would choose to reveal decades later!

So, I lived in this shadow for years, although I didn’t realize it.  I always, wondered what was wrong with me. Why wasn’t I good enough?   I silently struggled with self worth and value for what seemed like a lifetime.  For the life of me I couldn’t understand why someone who should have been there chose to be absent.  I spent years trying to grasp why my father would abandon me.

The only thing I knew about him was that he was a great dancer.  He was  known as the “Shag King” and apparently he was a party boy.  I was told I looked just like him and he lived in a city not too far from where I was raised.  I was told he was allowed to see me but saw me one last time when I was 3 and that was it.  I walked around for years with a gaping, bleeding wound in my heart.  To top that off insensitive adults would say things to me about seeing “my father” at this place or that place, like I was supposed to know who he was?  I would just feel so sad and confused about that. Treating children like adults and talking about things in such a callous way does hurt a child’s heart.  We should be careful what we say in the ear shot of a child.  But, never the less, it was what it was.

During my teen years one of his sisters who I didn’t know called once and it was awkward, I didn’t know her and she talked to me like I did!  I remember getting angry and wanting to cuss her out!  As I got older married and had children of my own.  It began to really hurt!  I often wondered about him; where he lived, knowing he had a family and other kids, I wondered what they looked like, but mostly I wondered why he couldn’t love me but could love them.  His lack of care, concern or love for me was confirmed years later when I heard from one of his sisters who pretty much told me as far as he is concerned in regards to me, “you are in the past.” Oh! ok I said outloud, “like I am dead or something!”  When I grew up and got married I remember that same sister contacted me and my Mom out of the blue, wanting to meet with us and talk.  So, we set up a time to meet.  She eventually cancelled, we never did meet and I never heard from her again.

Years go by, life moves on my walk in Christ is moving forward.  At 50 years old I attended what seemed like a random bible study and meet a woman who was God’s agent of truth in my life.

God is The revealer of all truth!  His timing is also perfect. He truly does know what is best for each of His children.  Two summers ago I was involved in a local bible study in my community.  During that study I met a woman and we talked a bit on facebook.  It was through what appeared to be a very random circumstance with this casual acquaintance that I found out I was not rejected but instead I was protected!  What seemed random was orchestrated by My Abba!  He knew I needed closure on my past, to move completely forward into my future. He knew I had a broken heart.  He knew I dealt with feeling rejected my entire life.  God is the mender of broken things and the heart is His expertise! What I learned that summer was not random at all.  It was time for me to understand I was rejected by my earthly father, but what was so much better; I was protected by my  heavenly Father!

 

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Do You Have The Faith of Abraham?

Romans 4:16-21 – Therefore, the promise comes by faith, so that it may be by grace and may be guaranteed to all Abraham’s offspring—not only to those who are of the law but also to those who have the faith of Abraham. He is the father of us all. 17 As it is written: “I have made you a father of many nations.” 17 He is our father in the sight of God, in whom he believed—the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not as though they were.  18 Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, “So shall your offspring be.” 19 Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead—since he was about a hundred years old—and that Sarah’s womb was also dead.  20 Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God,  21 being fully persuaded that God had power to do what he had promised.

This morning as I was reading through Romans 4, the passage above leapt off the written page and came alive in my heart!  The word is absolutely alive and active (Heb. 4:12).  If you know his journey with God; you see Abraham’s faith was not in his obedience to God.  Although, that was important.  His faith was not even in the promise! Albeit he knew God would bring it to pass.

Abraham’s faith was in “the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not as though they were.”   

WOW!   You see, he was 100 years old and he knew his body was as good as dead.  Sara was old too, her womb was dead!  DEAD!  No possibility for life to form in a dead womb!  It’s impossible!

But, isn’t that what our God does?

The impossible!

 He takes what seems utterly ridiculous and makes it an absolute reality!

 I really think it gives God great joy to blow His kids minds!  The word says, “Abraham believed without weakening in his faith.  He did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God!”

But y’all know when Issac was born from a womb that should have been dead; Abraham and Sarah were completely blown away! 

These incredible truths made me do some soul-searching.    The Holy Spirit began activating the word in my heart with these questions: 

1.  Do I have the faith of Abraham?

2. Is my faith in the promises of God or in the Promise Keeper?

3. Do I believe like my father Abraham in the God who not only gives life to the dead        but on top of that… calls into being things that are not as though they are?

4. Am  I fully persuaded that God has the power to do what He has promised me?

SO, can I ask you a few questions to give you something to ponder and mull over this week?  

What things in your life are as good as dead?   Or maybe are definitely dead.
Maybe there are dead relationships and your heart is broken.
A dead marriage? Financial hardship? Your health?
Maybe a lost loved one who is dead in trespasses and sins?
Could it be a dead God-given dream or vision for your life?

I have some things in my life that appear as good as dead.  Some truly break my heart. But you know what they say, “Things aren’t always what they seem.”

So let’s agree to ask The Lord Almighty to forgive us for our unbelief and let’s be honest we all have times of unbelief.

Repent & Believe!

We love and serve a God who was true to His promise to Abraham and Sarah!

 He raised Jesus Christ from the DEAD!

A God who transferred us from darkness to light.

Who has spoken promises to us through His Word!

Let’s believe BIG in the GOD of the Promise!  Let’s take our “dead” things to His throne room and lay them down at His beautiful feet.  Knowing He can and will call those things in our lives that are dead to life!

Let’s not waver in our belief regarding His promises but let the waiting strengthen our  faith so we too can give God glory!

 Let’s be fully persuaded that God will do what He says He will do!  He will call things that are not as though they are!

Let’s ask God to give us the faith of Abraham!

 

 

 

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Encouragement to Mommas of Young Children

This is to those Mom’s who have chosen or have been afforded the ability to be SAHM’s for a season. Some have no choice. Others choose not to. This is not a slam to them. Was meant to encourage those in this place….

A quote from the “Prince of Preachers” –

“You are as much serving God in looking after your own children, and training them up in God’s fear, and minding the house, and making your household a church for God, as you would be if you had been called to lead an army to battle for the Lord of hosts.” Charles Spurgeon

To those Momma’s in this season of life! Thought you might need a bit of encouragement! The world is screaming at you to abandon your home & your children in the name of woman power! There is also a message not necessarily taught but definitely caught in our church culture today. That a mother being faithful to God in her role as a wife, Mother (esp. of young children) & in her home is somehow not involved in “Kingdom work”.

Remember, this season will pass all too quickly! You can’t go back and have a do-over…there is a time for serving in bigger ways in & outside our churches.

Just be careful & wise in where & when you put your Yes on the table!

Don’t let the good take the place of the best!

Don’t let everyone else’s urgent crowd out what is most important in your life!

Pray & ask God to fill in your calendar.

It’s not that we can’t or shouldn’t serve elsewhere; it is just that this season is so short.

No one else is called to be your children’s Mother.

God gave them to you.

From someone who has been there & done that.

Disclaimer: this is NOT a post to discredit women in ministry outside the walls of their homes. Just a bit of honest reflection. Hopefully this will encourage young Mommas to be faithful to their husbands, faithful at home & to understand that being faithful as a Mother is definitely kingdom work!

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Insecurity Builds Walls

A few months back while listening to a sermon series by, Chip Ingram Living On The Edge  he talked about living in authentic community.  I heard him say, “We are all desperately insecure people.”  The way we live this out depends on our back story, how we were raised, our experiences, our view of God, ourselves & others.

Insecurity is rooted in FEAR.  Fear of failure.  Fear of success.  Fear of the unknown. Fear of not being good enough.  Fear of not being liked.  You name it!   It may be different for all of us, but we are all insecure in our own way.

     He went on to explain how insecurity exhibits itself:  Some of us are puffed up with pride and arrogance which is rooted in fear of being found out or found lacking; so we are driven to push harder, to accomplish much and climb that ladder of success to prove we are ok.  Driven people also drive others, sometimes over the edge!  Others of us are introverted to a fault.  We would rather just sit on the side lines than get in the game for the very same reasons that the driven person pushes so hard!  We don’t push at all!  At any rate, insecurity is the root of it all.  Which I have come to believe is the birth child of FEAR.  I should know, I have been the victim of fear more than I care to share here!  Be it panic attacks, sleepless  nights, worry, anxiety all of it is rooted deeply in fear.

     Over the past few years I have seen up close & personal how insecurity can damage relationships.  How insecurity builds walls not bridges.  Those who allow fear of losing control learn to isolate & insulate those they “love” from all others.  They become possessive to a fault.  It is heart-breaking for all who feel the ripple effects.   Like an infectious disease if not treated it has the power can to effect & infect the people we love the most.  Instead of keeping them leashed to us, it pushes them far away.  The very thing we feared becomes reality – all because of insecurity.

I know this because I once lived in the shadow of insecurity.  Which leads to social awkwardness and silent pain.   I adapted and learned to live in the shadow of others so I could just breathe and experience a degree of comfort.  This insecurity affected my entire family and was the root of my battle with depression.

Now, I see it for what it is.

Insecurity builds walls not bridges.

Walls are erected to keep the insecure person feeling safe.  In the process of protecting their hearts they end up building tall, thick walls that at times are impenetrable.  I am sure that I am not the only one who has struggled in this battle with insecurity.  We all have people like this in our lives.  Maybe we have tried reaching out to this person from a pure motive with no strings attached but each time our actions are misinterpreted through a screen of insecurity and the need to be in control and at the same time control those closest to this person.  Which in turn shuts down communication and relationship with others.  It is unfair and can I say also unjust?  Leashes were made for animals not people!

As a recovering insecure, fearful, anxiety filled person I can spot one a mile away.  Not that I am sitting in judgement but you know the quote, “It takes one to know one”? Yes….that was me.  What I have learned from my own insecurity issue is this:

Yes, we are all desperately insecure people.  ALL of us.  Even the most confident people we know are insecure.  

Fear desires to control others, schedules, environments and creates an atmosphere of
oppression for all those affected by it.  Fear erects tall, thick walls.  Keeps those they love so close that over time they feel like they wbuilding brick wallsill suffocate.

Fear builds the walls to protect but in protecting our safe little cocoon others are pushed out and kept at a distance.

Fear breeds  a sense of competition.
Fear feeds comparison even if in our minds.

Even with those we say we love the most, and makes for a very unhealthy environment to live in and be “happy” in.

Insecurity fosters fear, fear feeds control, control erects walls, walls result in insolation and eventually isolation.  Isolation destroys relationships.  What a waste of energy! When instead that energy could be used to build bridges.

Do you struggle with insecurity, control, fear and inferiority?  Or, maybe you have someone like that in your life or live with someone like this and are miserable?  What are we to do?  How do we build a bridge when they are busy building a wall?

PRAY for them and for ourselves.
PRAY and choose NOT to live your life under their thumb but enjoy the freedom, love and joy found in Jesus Christ.
PRAY they would see and be able to be honest with themselves and God.
PRAY the wounds of their past would be healed by the Holy Spirit through the Word.
Remember they are the real prisoner behind the walls of their own making.  Be patient. Love them where they are.  Speak truth into their lives when led to.  Help them get counseling from a biblically sound and compassionate professional counselor.

Let’s ask the Lord to help us tear down the walls we have built up to keep others out and instead learn to trust Him to help us begin building bridges to one another’s hearts.

 

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